Md. Tabrej
Director, Dept. of Business Administration
St. Joseph’s College, Jakhama
How often have you been living life, happy and content, and then suddenly life slaps you in the face with something unexpected? We all have problems, and the truth of the matter is that problems will never go away. They will just change the forms.
One time you may be struggling with health, the next with money and still the next with relationships and so on. This is both the curse and blessing of life. However, you don't have to suffer, because everything is not perfect in your life.
Behind the Scenes of Problems: Nothing becomes a problem until you label it so. You've probably noticed that different people have different opinions of what problems are and how much attention should be given to such thing. This means that problems exist in our heads, and that we create them, define them and fear them.
The Most Overlooked Secret: The secret to dealing with life's problems is to realize that they are illusions of our imagination. Sure, they feel very real. Let's say you're driving your car merrily down the highway, until someone cuts you off. You might fly off the handle, or you might not. It will depend on how you perceive the situation.
Life will always have "problems" and the way to deal with them is to let them be. You don't have to try to analyze, fantasize, or figure out your problems. Let them figure themselves out. The more you try, the more you fuel the problem and the more miserable you become.
This doesn't mean you stop solving problems. It means you stop the compulsive worrying and fear-mongering inside your head.
How to Stop the Compulsive Worrying: You can stop the madness by simply staying present, and letting whatever happens be. This can be extremely hard if you bump into a problem that is important to you, but it is through those big problems that the biggest changes occur.
Why is Life so Hard? Life can seem tough from time to time, but it is through those tough times that you grow as a human being. It's uncomfortable, but that's life.
It's a rollercoaster with both highs and lows, which we all have to live through, so you might as well learn how to deal with the lows. The more comfortable you become with life's problems, the more you'll enjoy life's gifts.
Conclusion: Life is what it is, and most of life's problems are created by us. The problems are events in our life, no one is denying that, but the extrapolation that we do freaks us out, and then we wonder why we feel so bad.
It's a life-long habit most of us have cultivated, which means we can change it. But change starts with awareness. Be kind to yourself, and enjoy both the highs and the lows.
