Yan Kikon: I've had to deal with a couple of rape and victimization cases in the cities where our Naga girls have been targeted. People who draw such conclusions by relating rape cases to dressing are perverts; even women! My answer is NO! Do you know in most rape cases, the victim never wore any revealing outfit? If this was TRUE that revealing outfit is the cause of RAPE. TELL THEM TO CHECK THE RAPE STATISTICS IN THE ARABIAN COUNTRIES WHERE WOMEN ARE COVERED FROM HEAD TO TOE!(Aloo mathaa conclusion and policy making!)
Arensen: Sexy 'attire', How sexily were our Naga forefathers and 'foremothers' attired! Rape, I mean rip off your mind far away from 'sexy' thoughts. God! How does a sexily-attired person become rape-worthy? {1+1=3}
Wapong Longkumer: A sexy attire as the description suggests sure should encourage sex, is it not what it is supposed to do else the attire is no longer sexy. However it also sure doesn't mean that it has to be used as an excuse of rape committed. Also, it doesn't hurt for ladies to know the time and place and dress appropriately.
The human mind is capable of many things but it is through education and culture that we are moulded , learning what is right from wrong that ultimately control us and also we learning to control ourselves. Unfortunately we never know what’s lurking at the dark side of the moon and those that have a bad childhood and trauma many a times will one day be overcome by those forces and become the aggressor themselves. Their first crime may be under influence of alcohol or drugs but slowly they will get accustomed to it and start committing even when sober. Just imagine the best disciplined soldiers just becoming rapists, sexual molesters, torturers overnight during war. And we humans, as long as we know we will get away with it we become the devil's incarnate.
Kevitho Kera: For me ' Sexy' is dressing up nicely, being up to date with the latest trend and looking nice but to be really honest Baring your cleavage and walking around town desperate trying to attract attention is definitely not Sexy! Or say wearing a micro mini and strutting your stuffs in a Naga hamlet is being ' Insensitive'. But like I said earlier Burkha or Bikini a rapist will always rape!
Rozelle Mero: Ask a five year old or a four year old who got raped if she was dressed indecently! Dressing indecently as someone mentioned is frowned upon but this is definitely not the reason why women or girls are raped. The perpetrators are basically SICKOS who are mentally DERANGED!!
Tails– Extra Marital Affairs in Nagaland
Senti Aier: I would like to raise a question to all the married couples and the unmarried people in this group. What do you think would be the cause for extra marital affairs? Not a doubt there will be a number of reasons, but no matter what the reasons are have you personally ever thought sincerely about the negative impacts on the family members? If NOT then high time. Have the parents or those men or women having affairs with married people ever crossed their mind that they are ruining the lives of not only themselves but most importantly the children’s? As a result of the affairs children become anxious or frightened, betrayed, or they may sense rejection and feel they must have done something wrong. Moreover, experts found that such children are prone to have affairs themselves when they marry.
Even in our society extra marital affairs are very common, most of us must have seen or experienced it. Who do we blame, ourselves or the influence of western culture? Being a Believer we all know what the Bible says about Adultery or cheating. “Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” Hebrews 13:4
Raithu Newmai: Human nature is too complicated to be understood. There are many factors contributing to extra marital affairs in our society. But above all financial stability plays a major role not forgetting the cordial relationship and mutual understanding between wife and husband. Apart from this, if anyone is doing it just for fun and lust, there're no words to describe their animal instincts. No matter what the reason may be for this, surrender your life and soul to the Lord and you'll not even think of it nor will that ever happen in your life.
Thejazo Gabriel: if people actually feared God as they ought to, despite all the reasons and excuses, a person dare not and will not do it. And this IS wisdom. The fear of the Lord actually prevents a person for sinning and this is heavenly wisdom. We pray for wisdom "fearlessly" and it is no wonder that many lack wisdom. Fear God, it will save us from sinning. For many, it is better to carry on with extra marital affairs because the CHURCH has no say on this but it has a concrete stand on divorce. Why divorce and be labelled when you can stay "married" and enjoy life? (This is what I guess would be the mentality of many couples in dead marriages).
Hokato Zhimomi: Lust of the flesh. No one can ever satisfy another person. Anyone can choose to do what he/she pleases but there are principles in life to follow as well as consequences. The marriage covenant is all about that.
Anyone not willing to abide by these principles can always blame the spouse for this or that reasons as an excuse to follow after his/her own lust.
Arensen: Sexy 'attire', How sexily were our Naga forefathers and 'foremothers' attired! Rape, I mean rip off your mind far away from 'sexy' thoughts. God! How does a sexily-attired person become rape-worthy? {1+1=3}
Wapong Longkumer: A sexy attire as the description suggests sure should encourage sex, is it not what it is supposed to do else the attire is no longer sexy. However it also sure doesn't mean that it has to be used as an excuse of rape committed. Also, it doesn't hurt for ladies to know the time and place and dress appropriately.
The human mind is capable of many things but it is through education and culture that we are moulded , learning what is right from wrong that ultimately control us and also we learning to control ourselves. Unfortunately we never know what’s lurking at the dark side of the moon and those that have a bad childhood and trauma many a times will one day be overcome by those forces and become the aggressor themselves. Their first crime may be under influence of alcohol or drugs but slowly they will get accustomed to it and start committing even when sober. Just imagine the best disciplined soldiers just becoming rapists, sexual molesters, torturers overnight during war. And we humans, as long as we know we will get away with it we become the devil's incarnate.
Kevitho Kera: For me ' Sexy' is dressing up nicely, being up to date with the latest trend and looking nice but to be really honest Baring your cleavage and walking around town desperate trying to attract attention is definitely not Sexy! Or say wearing a micro mini and strutting your stuffs in a Naga hamlet is being ' Insensitive'. But like I said earlier Burkha or Bikini a rapist will always rape!
Rozelle Mero: Ask a five year old or a four year old who got raped if she was dressed indecently! Dressing indecently as someone mentioned is frowned upon but this is definitely not the reason why women or girls are raped. The perpetrators are basically SICKOS who are mentally DERANGED!!
Tails– Extra Marital Affairs in Nagaland
Senti Aier: I would like to raise a question to all the married couples and the unmarried people in this group. What do you think would be the cause for extra marital affairs? Not a doubt there will be a number of reasons, but no matter what the reasons are have you personally ever thought sincerely about the negative impacts on the family members? If NOT then high time. Have the parents or those men or women having affairs with married people ever crossed their mind that they are ruining the lives of not only themselves but most importantly the children’s? As a result of the affairs children become anxious or frightened, betrayed, or they may sense rejection and feel they must have done something wrong. Moreover, experts found that such children are prone to have affairs themselves when they marry.
Even in our society extra marital affairs are very common, most of us must have seen or experienced it. Who do we blame, ourselves or the influence of western culture? Being a Believer we all know what the Bible says about Adultery or cheating. “Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” Hebrews 13:4
Raithu Newmai: Human nature is too complicated to be understood. There are many factors contributing to extra marital affairs in our society. But above all financial stability plays a major role not forgetting the cordial relationship and mutual understanding between wife and husband. Apart from this, if anyone is doing it just for fun and lust, there're no words to describe their animal instincts. No matter what the reason may be for this, surrender your life and soul to the Lord and you'll not even think of it nor will that ever happen in your life.
Thejazo Gabriel: if people actually feared God as they ought to, despite all the reasons and excuses, a person dare not and will not do it. And this IS wisdom. The fear of the Lord actually prevents a person for sinning and this is heavenly wisdom. We pray for wisdom "fearlessly" and it is no wonder that many lack wisdom. Fear God, it will save us from sinning. For many, it is better to carry on with extra marital affairs because the CHURCH has no say on this but it has a concrete stand on divorce. Why divorce and be labelled when you can stay "married" and enjoy life? (This is what I guess would be the mentality of many couples in dead marriages).
Hokato Zhimomi: Lust of the flesh. No one can ever satisfy another person. Anyone can choose to do what he/she pleases but there are principles in life to follow as well as consequences. The marriage covenant is all about that.
Anyone not willing to abide by these principles can always blame the spouse for this or that reasons as an excuse to follow after his/her own lust.
