David Shoshani
We are human beings. Each and every one of us has unique life-circumstances which have brought us up to this point in time. We do not live in a vacuum and there is always a give-and-take feedback between Us and the environment we inhabit.
The thoughts and feelings of a divorced woman who has 2 children are considerably different from the thoughts and feelings of a teenaged girl. The most minute change in our current life-surroundings, in what we experience and in what we wish and hope for ourselves, create a totally dissimilar Self.
Therefore it is natural to assume that not all of us easily accept the existence of the Kingdom of love and the feasibility of TrueLove; we have doubts to some extent. Those, influence the unique love-life that we create for ourselves and in turn determine how fast TrueLove will enter our life.
One thing is certain though - no matter who we are now, there was a time that each of us knew about TrueLove. I use the term “knew” rather than “believed” because the knowing is always accompanied by certainty. We all once knew that TrueLove does exist just as we now know that the sun will rise above us tomorrow morning. During the years we have abandoned that definite knowing and passively replaced it with a worthless belief which in turn faded away. Nowadays either we do not believe in TrueLove at all or we deny and repress its existence.
The process from certainty to forgetfulness has been taking place - consciously or not – in your early years. That explains the fact that you may not have a recollection of it. A little child for instance could deliberately chose for himself to forget, soon after his birth, what he knew about TrueLove in order to create for himself the suitable life-circumstances for his expected development. Additionally, he could also preplan that he would remember TrueLove at certain age and that memory would advance him further on his journey.
A divorced woman who had two failing marriages and who probably believed in TrueLove enough to try it twice may now tell herself: “TrueLove does not want me, I have no part in it. TrueLove is for other people. Not for me”.
Many of us can sympathize with such words and mood. It would be equally easy to sympathize with a solitary mature man who longs for an embrace from a loved one but unfortunately, wherever he looks, he faces despair, loneliness and hopelessness. For many of us TrueLove has become an intangible concept that we see in only movies and giggle of with friends over a cup of coffee. But when the issue touches our life, we sigh. That sigh exemplifies the fact that we have come to accept our sad situation and the hopeless circumstances that make TrueLove totally unreal in our personal life.
Many women who have lost hope to find their TrueLove choose to bring a child to the world without a long lasting relationship. They become single mothers and face the accelerating burdens of finance support, emotional caring and daily distress. THOSE same circumstances create extremely difficult life-situations that undermine the self-esteem of those mothers and hence pull them further way from the knowingness of TrueLove. Such a mother may encourage herself by saying: “when my child grows up a little more I will find the time to think of myself”. Meanwhile, she kills any inconvenient thought about love and relationship. She will indeed continue to hope that one day her knight will appear on a white horse, and will carry her and her child in his arms to his kingdom, to manifest that great TrueLove she was dreaming of.
However, sadly enough, when a potential Knight will surprisingly appear, that old doubt that has been nesting within her will elicit:
“TrueLove? For me?....No way!...”
“just like that?... no way…”
“And why now?...no, it can’t be!…”
“what that man wants from me anyway….”
And there he goes. That man disappears, fled away by that woman’s doubts and suspicions. She on her part uses that incident to reinforce her initial belief that TrueLove exists only in fairytales. Sadly enough she does not realize yet that that belief was the cause for the failing scenario in the first place.
If you think that such description is unreal, think again. Numerous people do not believe in the existence of TrueLove and for them that kingdom is a fantasy no less than Peter Pan’s Never Never land.
The truth remains consistent. The Kingdom of love is natural and real as any other reality you perceive with your senses. The fact that we still do not Fully aware of that reality does not mean it is an illusion. Different rules apply in that reality that determine the way to access it, how to remain in it and also, for those interested, how to leave it rather easily.
When we hear about a grand ceremony that is taking place somewhere in a gilded majestic castle we naturally assume that certain dress codes apply and specific behavior rules are expected to be followed. We know that if we want to enter that ceremony we better comply. We also know that once we are in we must continue to behave appropriately or else be expelled. Every system has its peculiar and unique grand rules that govern and shape its existence.
The fact that the kingdom of love with its TrueLove characters is more artificial to us and reposes mostly in our thoughts and feelings does not mean it is a no-man land. Therefore, certain rules do apply to that kingdom with whom you will be familiarized in the coming articles.
