David Shoshani
Not every belief that you hold needs to be directly related to TrueLove. Often times many of our world-views just slightly touch that issue. Take for instance a girl who has experienced several unsuccessful relationships – perhaps some were abusive as well; she might have developed a negative opinion about men in general. She then might say “there are no really good men around” and that belief in itself is like saying: “I do not believe in TrueLove”. Why? Because TrueLove necessitates the initial existence of at least one good man – to say the least – and if that girl’s life is full of “non-good men” she will never find the TrueLove she desires. Notice how a simple and somewhat hidden belief that was crystallized along the years in one’s life shapes that one’s current reality in the present.
Let’s examine another example. Take a mature woman who has a family and children to care for, and who secretly dreams about and believes in a grandiose love that will undoubtedly come to sweep her away towards happiness and richness. That woman may create for herself the kind of love-fantasy that she regularly sees on a soap-opera on TV and for her the belief itself in the existence of the fantasy is wonderful. However, what might foreclose her from manifesting that fantasy is the separation she puts between the fantasy and her own “realistic” life! Whereas she declares that she believes in TrueLove she holds a counter belief that cancels the former:
“…but who would ever want a mother of three…?! ”, or
“…but how can I find the time to look for love? I need to provide for my family, don’t I?…”
or, in the case that we speak about a married woman:
“of course I want TrueLove but my husband doesn’t believe in such nonsense, so what can I do?”…
The common denominators for the above statements are the impuissance, the weakness and the despair that are sometimes being demonstrated by human beings. Along side their strong belief in TrueLove they cast off the responsibility for their life on outside circumstances, seemingly detached from them and outside their reach. By that they put a huge fence in the way of TrueLove towards them. Pay attention how such declarations are a way for humans to give their power away. And, friends, remember that TrueLove goes hand in hand with personal creatorship and inner strength.
Sometimes, even the most seemingly remote thought can be the one to cause difficulties and to prevent you from allowing TrueLove into your lives. If you think “the world belongs to the youngsters”, or “life is difficult”, or “I don’t require much from life, I settle for the minimum” – then you block TrueLove. Why? Because TrueLove is about joy, about compassion, about equality (and no matter how old you are) and about manifesting your wildest dreams. How can you expect to have TrueLove when you settle for the minimum? When TrueLove hears you it says “they are not ready yet”, and turns away to find someone whose limitless dreams and desires touch the sky.
We must act responsibly in our lives and pay attention to every thought, saying or deed because they show the beliefs we hold about TrueLove. In time and practice the appropriate set of beliefs will naturally develop within us so we will no longer need to continuously check and analyze our mind chatter.
Perhaps you say now that I was exaggerating. “Come’ on, we just joke about it. Of course there are good men; of course we deserve to have a good relationship; of course we want the best;” Well, if all that is so obvious then why don’t you declare that to yourselves and your friends?! And besides, are you sure that you really believe that and not just saying it?!
Some of you may say: “but how can I believe in TrueLove?! Don’t you see what’s going on in the world?! So many collapsing relationships and divorces, so much physical abuse, so many lonely souls. How can I believe, how?!”
And to a point you are certainly right. The difficulty to believe can be very real but it is also a grand illusion. A belief, any belief, and especially a new one that has just recently been adopted, takes time to be manifested in the reality. Forget about what others think, forget about the world around you, don’t watch TV for a while, refrain from reading newspapers - What counts is your private belief system since that is your first step (among very few) that will lead you to the path towards the kingdom.
A belief can sometime be rather elusive and frustrating as the following story shows:
An old American lady at one time heard that once a month, every month, a group of monks gather in Tibet , in the Himalayas , to converse with God. That is, they ask questions and God answers. She immediately packed her belongings and with the remainder of the money she had she bought a plane ticket and reported to the next gathering to see with her own eyes that unbelievable miracle.
And indeed, at the scheduled day and time the monks gathered, accompanied by some other foreigners like her, and after a few minutes of silence God – in flesh – entered the room. Following some mutual greetings they all set down and began the Questions and answers session. The American lady was shocked and she could not believe what she was experiencing. God was there, right before her, speaking and talking, sharing and laughing and all with a human voice. If she had enough strength she would surely get up to touch God’s feet.
The mike roamed among the people and when it reached the old lady she fearfully stood up and with a shaking voice, as her old feet trembled, she said:
“Oh, mighty God, dear God, I have been looking for you for so many years. Many nights I have cried for you to answer me and sometimes I was even angry with you. Oh God, my life is falling apart, my husband died recently and I feel so lonely, my children live so far away and I barely see them, I don’t have any money and I hardly made it up to here. My pastor has always told me to believe in God that one day would come and help me. Oh, God, I am so miserable, if only you knew how much”.
The old lady paused and God winked, but she didn’t notice that. Instead she took a deep breath and when she realized that God was really listening to her she continued:
“Oh, God, all my life I wanted so much to believe that you existed. I desired that with all my heart. Why didn’t you give me a signal, just a little clue that you were really there; perhaps a little angel to whisper in my heart; maybe a winning in the lottery, or even perhaps your voice in the middle of the night. If you only gave me that little sign I would believe in you years ago and would become your greatest believer in the whole world!!”
God looked down at the old dear woman that stood in front of him. He put his hand on top of her head, bent down and said so everybody could hear: “Dear one, life does not work like that, you know… If You had only believed in God in the first place you would Have gotten by now the sign you so eagerly desired!”
