Theja Kaco
Many people believe in love at first sight. And I don’t think I would be wrong in assuming and saying that majority of them would be girls (no offence meant to the girls).
Girls imagine (and maybe hope and pray) that one day, out of the blue, their ‘Prince Charming’ would come by riding a white horse (or maybe a black horse or on a bike or a car or just walking - depending on the girls preference) and they would fall in love then and there. Guys imagine that their ‘angel’ would come, all of a sudden and they would fall in love instantly. Ok, ok....well... everybody might not imagine like that but one thing for sure is that many people think that they and their ‘one’ will meet one day and fall in love at first sight.
I am one of those people who do NOT believe in love at first sight.
I mean, ‘cmon, this ain’t a hindi movie where the girl drops her books...the guy picks up her books ....their eyes meet...cupid strikes....and poof --- they are married and have two kids-only (since they are good citizens and they are conscious about the population problem of India).
A girl-friend (remember, girl friend and girl-friend are two different types of relationships) of mine and I were discussing, debating - to be precise, one time, about whether love at first sight really happens or not. She said to me, “I fell in love at first sight with Meren * (name changed on request) and it has been a couple of years and we are still going strong”. And then she asked me, “You still don’t believe in love at first sight? What do you know about love?” I thought for a moment that she might be right since she is supposed to know what love is given the fact that she has had atleast 12 boyfriends (and she’s only 17 years ‘young’ ---- dunno if that’s her real age or not--- she has been 17 years ‘young’ for the past two years)
I thought of telling you people her name but she has threatened to kill me if I disclose her name. Her exact words were, “Toi moi laga naam koishe koile moi toike murai di bo de”. And I think she meant it. I could see it in her eyes.
Let’s get back to the main topic. I told her what I’m gonna tell you. If you see a guy/girl for the first time and begin to like him/her a lot instantly then it means you have a crush on him/her. It does not mean you love him/her (at least not at that moment). Yes, if you and your ‘crush’ start to hang out, start to know each other better and begin to trust each other then you might fall in love with each other. Many of you confuse this as love at first sight.
This is just a case of a crush or an admiration blossoming into love. In my mind one thing is clear and for sure --- there’s no love without trust. Trust is absolutely necessary. So, there is no chance of love at first sight since two people meeting for the first time cannot possibly trust each other completely. I hope you got my point.
I have noticed that many Naga youths believe in love at first sight. One clear evidence is the R&J board --- there is virtually at least one message everyday written/sent by someone, who has fallen in love at first sight, professing his/her ‘undying’ love.
What I’m about to say/write will probably piss some (or many) people off but I’m gonna say it anyways. I think that those who believe in love at first sight don’t know what love is and are not mature enough emotionally. (I know, I’m gonna get so many bad responses for this line). I’m sure some of you must be cursing me and hating me by now. But this is how I feel and I have the right to freedom of expression (opinion) and I’m gonna use my right.
Those of you who disagree with me and are irked by my statements and also those who agree with me can send their feedbacks to: t13_xy@yahoo.co.in
