Friendships turn to enmity. Trust can lead to betrayal. Promises are broken and relationships turn bitter. We lose a loved one either through death, separation or simply because they get up and go. We hold grudges from the past and we hold on to the grief, pain and sorrow in our hearts. At every turn in our lives we go through such experiences-and each time we feel the pain of loss. It becomes a bitter pill to swallow and the lessons we learn from it are even harder to digest.
People change. Sometimes the magic and euphoria of a new found love suddenly fades away. Sometimes the ones we put our trust in are the ones who let us down. The friendship that we cherished for so long can turn into antagonism and we are left bewildered, hurt and grieving. Sometimes we lose a loved one to death and we carry that grief with us in our hearts. We are left with only questions about what went wrong or why it had to happen to us. We often wonder if we can avoid the pain and find ways trying to by pass it somehow. Or we live in false hope and expectations thinking that things will turn out the way we want them to.
It’s sad but its true-there is no escaping pain…..and I don’t mean the physical kind! We become so engrossed in that pain and we let it swallow us whole. Sometimes we allow that pain to run our lives and blind us to what is in front of us. And if truth be known, it is then true to say that there is no instant relief for the suffering we go through. There are some people who are tougher and wiser to it but then, they too have endured so much loss and suffering through out their lives that they can cope with it. But for most of us, it is hard to deal with the loss and come to terms with it. For most of us the pain and suffering drags us down into the deep abyss of loneliness.
But the human spirit is a marvelous thing. In spite of the brokenness it endures, in spite of the hurt and the pain it undergoes yet it still manages to come through. It still finds its way through the darkness and despair. And as time goes by, we begin that slow but sure process of healing our broken spirits and we learn to finally let go. Truly letting go and freeing ourselves from the bitterness and the suffering that we nurture inside us. Truly letting go and giving ourselves another chance to live and let live. Truly letting go but holding on to the lessons that we have learned from the experience. And then, only then, we can begin to realize that the real happiness of life is the result of letting go…and that happiness waits for all those who cry all those who hurt all those who have searched and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives!
Tiamenla Imchen, D.C.Hill,
Mokokchung.
