Dr Samhita Barooah
QueerUp
We are all striving towards an existence of either being loved or being without love. The strings of love are interwoven into business, trade, religion, gender, lust, hatred, rejection and reflection. But #love diversity exists in every sphere of life and living. We attach unconditionality, infinity and receprocity to love which makes two or more people struggle with the ball of love throughout their life times. People connect and reconnect through, with, for, beyond and around love.
We have some normative, structured and legitimate boundaries to love which find easy access to hate politics and unbound jealousies. Such reactions or responses to accepted or unaccepted love between humans, animals and humans, nature and humans and communities and humans have waged wars or built bridges of harmony for posterity. Sometimes we look for friendship in love or love in friendship between humans across the diverse spectrum of genders. The confusion remains like an unsolved jigsaw puzzle throughout a lifetime. But more so often these confusions are fanned by the externalities of deep-rooted presumptions and confusions leading to life threatening conditions.
When the expectations of reciprocity is attached to love, then the problems arise. Most faiths and healers discuss about universal love and absence of hate in its core essence. When people start practicing such universal wisdom on love as a value, the practical problems of diversity arise. I have many friends and family members finding their interfaith, intercultural, intercontinental, interlingual, intertribe, intercaste, interstate and intergender love in people of their choice. All such people have shared their lives as epitomes of loved expressions. When politics is played around religious, faith based identities, sanctity and stigmatisation then love disappears and every relationship becomes a position of power expression.
Love doesn't choose identities, its an expression of bonding which ensures mutual dignity and respect. How can such a profound thought be divisive, destructive and distorted?
Love is adapted to divinity in all the prominent documented or undocumented faiths. Love for one's ecology, maternal family, legally wedded cis gender spouse, community at birth, collective cultural expressions all finds easy legitimacy and social acceptance. But love for material objects, non humans, non-binary persons, practices and policies, natural ecologies, queerness in action and reflection doesn't seem to find space in the centers of power and change. Suddenly love gets attached to forms of violent resistance, codes of cultural disruptions and anti-thesis of all actions. It’s the love of memories, living traditions, human bonds of diversity which marvelled human expressions. But in today's times love finds itself bound by limitless scrutinies of stigma and discrimination. #lovediversity has added tastes to the palate, flavours to the recepies, layers to the faiths, fun to festivities, skills to livelihoods and sustainability to economies of ecology. Its very amusing to observe the disjointed perceptions of prominent political agendas to marginalise the right to cohabit, right to choose a consenting adult for sexuality, marriage, reproduction or intimate living partnership within their personal sphere. #love...has its own trajectory of reform and restoration but manufacturing consent and controlling the contours of love will definitely impact every gender differently. People without a deeper experience of #love diversity might be easily swayed to join the herds of discontent, pseudo culture bearers and radical misogynists. Such politics will find more fakeness, fears and fanatic elements rather than real issues of people, planet and policies.
