Mrs Anima Martins from Youth With A Mission (YWAM), Jaipur speaks at the one day parenting seminar conducted on May 25.
Dimapur | May 26 : A one day parenting seminar was conducted on May 25 at Hollotoli School, Dimapur. The resource person was Mrs Anima Martins from Youth With A Mission (YWAM), Jaipur. Martins, with her years of experience both as a parent and as a counselor and youth worker spoke about the need for disciplining children from a young age in order to bring out the best in them, enabling them to fulfill their full potential, and find the purpose for which they have been created.
‘Discipline children from a young age in order to bring out the best in them’
The resource person stressed on the fact that discipline is not just about spanking or beating or locking a child up, but that disciplining a child is about enabling the child to train, practice and learn. The participants were also encouraged to “keep the end in mind” by having a clear overall purpose, objective and goal in parenting. “How would you want your child to be as an adult? What are the values, morals and principles that you would want him/her to have?” she asked the participants. Martins stressed that discipline is important because children are like an empty slate, where parents and teachers must engrave morals, values and principles that would propel them to success and influence the world around them. She added that discipline is needed in order to train a child to develop his/her gifts and talents, life skills, stewardship, and making right choices
The speaker also spoke about the dangers of parents disciplining and spanking children in anger. “It is very, very wrong when we discipline our children out of anger and as a way of releasing our anger,” she said. “Discipline should always be out of love, keeping the end in mind”. From her own life, Martins who is mother of 3 boys from 20 to 17 years said that she always gave her boys a hug and words of love after disciplining them. Martins also shared that parents need to communicate to children the reason why they will be, or are being disciplined, and the consequences of their disobedience. “Communicate before you start to discipline your child,” she stressed.
Martins encouraged the parents of teenagers to walk with their children through these difficult years, and not keep looking at the negatives; and to recognize and respect the worth of their teenage children. “I’d rather that my children have long hair or funny haircuts, then do things behind my back. Allowing them to express their individuality through a hairstyle or clothing, as long as it is not a moral issue, gives them a sense of independence and eliminates rebellion,” she added.
Martins ended on the note that if a child is disciplined from the ages of 1 to 12, it becomes easy for a parent to handle the teen years, and that parenting and disciplining is a commitment. “Parents need to be committed in disciplining their child. Lack of commitment will confuse the child,” she said.
About 25 participants – teachers and parents attended the seminar, out of which there was only one male parent, Mr Savi Liegise, President of Naga Council.
‘Discipline children from a young age in order to bring out the best in them’
The resource person stressed on the fact that discipline is not just about spanking or beating or locking a child up, but that disciplining a child is about enabling the child to train, practice and learn. The participants were also encouraged to “keep the end in mind” by having a clear overall purpose, objective and goal in parenting. “How would you want your child to be as an adult? What are the values, morals and principles that you would want him/her to have?” she asked the participants. Martins stressed that discipline is important because children are like an empty slate, where parents and teachers must engrave morals, values and principles that would propel them to success and influence the world around them. She added that discipline is needed in order to train a child to develop his/her gifts and talents, life skills, stewardship, and making right choices
The speaker also spoke about the dangers of parents disciplining and spanking children in anger. “It is very, very wrong when we discipline our children out of anger and as a way of releasing our anger,” she said. “Discipline should always be out of love, keeping the end in mind”. From her own life, Martins who is mother of 3 boys from 20 to 17 years said that she always gave her boys a hug and words of love after disciplining them. Martins also shared that parents need to communicate to children the reason why they will be, or are being disciplined, and the consequences of their disobedience. “Communicate before you start to discipline your child,” she stressed.
Martins encouraged the parents of teenagers to walk with their children through these difficult years, and not keep looking at the negatives; and to recognize and respect the worth of their teenage children. “I’d rather that my children have long hair or funny haircuts, then do things behind my back. Allowing them to express their individuality through a hairstyle or clothing, as long as it is not a moral issue, gives them a sense of independence and eliminates rebellion,” she added.
Martins ended on the note that if a child is disciplined from the ages of 1 to 12, it becomes easy for a parent to handle the teen years, and that parenting and disciplining is a commitment. “Parents need to be committed in disciplining their child. Lack of commitment will confuse the child,” she said.
About 25 participants – teachers and parents attended the seminar, out of which there was only one male parent, Mr Savi Liegise, President of Naga Council.
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