Reconciliation involves human reasoning and the grace to recognize the existence of the one you are divided from, and cannot be relegated to mere sentimentality and emotional outbursts. The journey towards achieving reconciliation is uncharted as it is a process guided by truth. The process involves openly addressing the differences of the past and exploring the possible future in a sincere and forth right manner. Reconciliation takes place within the interplay of contextual reality, human feelings, moral arguments, the power of the past and the politics of the future.
In essence, reconciliation is not an event, rather a process that is aimed at transforming human relationships, power dynamics and eventually, resulting in a new harmonious coexistence. Reconciliation is a radical proposition that has social, cultural, economic and political implications. It is about dismantling the structures of dominance, divisions and violence, through a process where JustPeace can be experienced.
Forgiveness in the context of a reconciliation process is relational, and does not occur in a vacuum. It is rarely the first step because it is usually preceded by acknowledging the coexistence principle which is based on a willingness to accept the existence of the other. Reconciliation is not about uniformity or conformity. It is not even important that an agreement is reached on all matters. What is important is to ensure that we treat one another with respect and address differences in a nonviolent manner, keeping in mind the common good as the paramount objective. It is essential that the reconciliation process creates the maximum space within which dialogue, mutual reciprocity and open engagement can take place between all parties. Such a process can lead to mutual understanding, affirming a common set of principles and values, and the willingness to contribute to a shared future where people who disagree can live together.
Reconciliation processes in armed conflict situations have shown that it is unrealistic to expect leaders of liberation movements and military forces, who believe that their cause is a just one, to readily assume responsibility for human rights violations. Experiences have also shown that it is also unlikely that all leaders and members of conflict parties will change their ways. And yet, it is essential for any reconciliation process to address human rights violations and killings. It is here that the question of truth becomes complicated by default. The truth can be so horrific that it may even provoke reactive-violence. In this case, truth does not necessarily lead to reconciliation. Hence, truth needs to be carefully handled and spoken with humility and sincerity. From this viewpoint, genuine reconciliation needs more than truth-telling. It requires a willingness to change, and where possible to make restitution or reparation for past mistakes and the readiness to extend and receive forgiveness.
It will be useful for us to learn from other people’s experiences. And while we do so, let us consciously make a shift in our thinking from one of victims to survivors. So long as we look at ourselves as victims and carry this mentality of victimhood we will always find one justification or another to perpetuate this cycle of violence. It is in our experiment with truth that Nagas can claim our destiny as a people with dignity and compassion.
